How To Be Gross Without Being Gross

a.k.a. How To Be A Better Pervert With Practical Tips

Instructors: Bondagious & Thumper

price per individual: 

BOUND Members $25 |TIED Members $35 | WRAPPED Members $40

Friday April 5th, 7PM to 10PM

What does it mean to “fuck around” and what are we trying to “find out”? When I say: “I trust you,” how do I engage to accept a range of possible undesired or uncomfortable outcomes? How can we work as a team to build a sense of security, identify functional exit strategies, cultivate attentive aftercare support, and commit to engaged repair practices as we explore the shadow zones of our appetites and impulses? Bondagious & Thumper will facilitate a group discussion where we dive into the messy business of exposing desire and experiencing vulnerability within a supportive container of security and trust.

Both singles and tying pairs are encouraged to participate in this roundtable discussion. Short exercises will be presented for pairs to explore. Single participants are welcome to pair up if they wish or observe others: watching is participating.

Things to bring:

• A small rope kits for floor work
• 2 blindfolds/bandanas
• Clothing that can be soaked with water

Prerequisites:

Some experience required.

• For tops: For example, ability to tie a single and double column, basic frictions (e.g. munters, half hitches), and basic chest and hip/leg harness.
• For bottoms: Experience being in rope, noticing physical and emotional responses, knows personal body strengths/limits
• For both: basic negotiation and communication skills with partners, basic anatomy and risks

About the Instructors:

Bondagious snared Thumper in a rope initiation in the fall of 2019, and they have been tying tangible and intangible bonds together ever since.

Bondagious (he/him)

Based in Montreal, Quebec, Canada, Bondagious (he/him) has advanced his hard and soft skills since 2018 through Japanese-inspired rope bondage classes at Tension Montreal, as well as at intensives with visiting artists Tifereth (June 2019), Nicolas Yoroi (Oct 2019), and Akechi Kanna (June 2022). With a background in performing arts, he enjoys showcasing his approach to play at Montreal’s Nuit des Cordes (2020-2024) and Tension’s Soirée Shibari rope performance showcase (April 2019, February 2020, April 2022). His penchant for reorganizing is not limited to his play partners however. He coordinated a public Street Shibari 2-day community showcase as part of Montreal’s Fetish Weekend 2019, and is the founder and ongoing co-host for Mens Rope Night, a monthly open practice for GBTQ+ men who tie men to meet, chat, watch and tie in a secure and supportive environment. This activity recently celebrated its 4th anniversary this past November.

Thumper (he/they)

Thumper (he/they) was first exposed to rope at a fateful first date in September 2019. Soon after, they started their education at Tension Montreal, first in ropes and subsequently as a rigger in December 2019. Being a stage performer and former gymnast, they were also invited to co-teach suspension classes as a person in ropes in 2019–20. Live performance has always been a part of Thumper’s interests. They were pleased to collaborate with Bondagious on their first performance at Tension’s monthly Soirée Shibari (Feb 2020), where they went all-in to prepare a stage-worthy moment that was well received by the local community. Along with being invited again to perform at Tension in April 2022, they also took part in the 2020 through 2024 editions of Nuit des Cordes in Montreal. Thumper is also one of the co-hosts of Men’s Rope Night, an event that aims to increase participation of GBTQ+ men in rope spaces.

This duo’s extended exploration of clothing kinks drew them to develop their Exposure and Restraint: clothing play and rope bondage workshop, which they previewed at NARIX Montreal in June 2022 and have since toured to Toronto (Aug ‘22), New York (Nov ‘22, May ‘23), Ottawa (Nov ‘22), Quebec City (Jan ‘ 23), Chicago (Dec ‘23), and Austin, TX (Feb ‘24).

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